You’re About to Learn the Secret Method That Will Help Cure Your Husband’s Addiction to Pornography Using Real Insights Into the Human Mind That No One Else Reveals

Discover the 4-Step Process that Will Cure His Craving By Actually Changing the Way His Brain Creates and Processes Addiction “Chemicals”

Dear Friend,

If you’re reading this right now, one of three things are probably happening in your marriage.

Either you’ve discovered, by accident or through your own investigation, that your husband has a big problem with pornography and you’re disgusted and angry about it, or

Your husband has confessed to you that he has a "problem" with pornography, feels guilty and ashamed, is seeking some kind of help and has asked you for forgiveness and support, or

You’ve confronted your husband about something you’ve discovered and he’s either denied it or claims it’s "no big deal" and that you’re overreacting to a mere "guy thing." (By the way, chances are that his involvement with porn goes much deeper and is much more insidious than he’ll EVER admit to you.)

If any of these are true, I know you’re feeling devastated...disgusted...downright FURIOUS at him.

This feels like a betrayal of trust, a betrayal of your marriage vows.

It feels like he’s cheated on you.

You wonder if you’ve done something wrong or if he doesn’t find you attractive anymore. You feel insecure about your sexuality, because you thought you were ENOUGH for him, and this makes you feel that you’re not nearly enough to satisfy his craving.

You thought your sex life was good.

You thought you had a decent relationship. You certainly work hard and do so much for your family - so in a way, this also feels like disrespect to you, your family and your marriage. It’s like you’ve FAILED somehow, but you’re not sure how.

You have a right to feel whatever you’re feeling. I certainly wouldn’t blame you for being angry and disgusted and disappointed with your husband.

I wouldn’t be surprised if you were contemplating moving out or getting a divorce right now.

However, the fact that you’re here reading this means not only that you sense there’s another way to heal from this, but that you’re ready and willing to do the hard work to actually GET THROUGH THIS instead of throwing away your marriage and breaking up your family.

In fact, there is a way to get through this and help your husband break free of his addiction to porn.

And what you’re about to read right now is probably going to be the most important thing you’ll hear in this critical time.

Here’s why...

Your willingness to face this situation head-on is already a GREAT sign. It tells me that the chances of you and your husband being able to move beyond this have already increased dramatically.

However, there is something you’re probably wanting to do that you shouldn’t EVER do if you want to be a part of his healing and give your relationship a fighting chance.

Please do not corner him, demand a full confession, become his thought police and otherwise try to "shame" him into apologizing and ending his addiction.

If you do any of these things, you will force him to lie to you. You will send him further down into his "spiral of shame" and you will make his addiction even WORSE. It will make healing for him almost impossible.

You actually have to get such an understanding of his problem that you can approach this problem with tremendous compassion.

Reading this letter will help. You’ll learn why his addiction has nothing to do with sex, why it’s NOT YOUR FAULT and what is really lacking in his life that is driving him to look at porn.

But first, I want you to know...

I know you’re not alone in your struggle. There are thousands - maybe millions of wives out there who either don’t know about their husband’s porn addiction, or are about to find out or have separated because of it.

When I researched how many people are dealing with this problem I was shocked. One website said that a recent survey of Christian men said 50% of them had a problem with pornography addiction.

50%!!

So I began to wonder...why is this so wide-spread and insidious of a problem? And why, if they know how destructive this is to a marriage and family, are so many people having a hard time getting help?

And not just quick fixes. Not just temporary solutions. I’m talking change from within. Change that really means something. Change they can be proud of for a long, long time-even the rest of their life.

I did a Google search for "stop porn addiction"

There are dozens of sites dedicated to helping people.

Some are put out by doctors. Some by churches. Some by people that want to help in breaking pornography addiction.

I started reading the sites, and I got sick to my stomach.

Look, I don’t want to criticize people’s good efforts to help. They have stepped up in an effort to be part of the solution.

But here is what I saw over and over as ways these sites advise to stop porn addiction. These may have been methods you and your husband have agreed to try or have already put into motion:

• Put the computer in a public place
• No surfing the web at night
• Put a limit on the amount of time he spends online each week
• Don’t go to chat rooms
• When he feels tempted, he should turn off the computer
• Know the signs of addiction and stopping them
• Making him feel really bad or ashamed about it
• Commit to stopping the habit

They would have testimonials about their processes that sounded like this:

"I’m really glad I came across this. I am excited that this will help me in breaking porn addiction..."

Or

"I’m going to start doing this stuff right away. Thanks for this information…"

A couple of them had fee based video programs that helped people through this struggle. They acknowledged in their site that watching videos online was very similar to the old habits. I couldn’t help but think that this might be really difficult for someone with this challenge. The internet is the place where they struggle. Could they be on the internet and watch videos for help and resist the old habits at the same time? That’s kind of like an alcoholics anonymous meeting being held at someone’s favorite bar while their friends are drinking next door.

Again, I commend them for their effort. They are doing something. But I was disappointed at the limited options for finding help.

One site had a blog where people could post comments. I copied some of the comments. I couldn’t believe how these people were out there struggling and the solutions offered were all quick fixes that most likely wouldn’t work.

"Try harder. Ask God for more self-control. Have more motivation and willpower."

I wanted to throw up.

If self control was the solution, the people would have changed the habit years ago.

Einstein said:

"No problem can be solved by the same level of consciousness that created it."

Expecting these people to solve this problem on their own meets the definition of insanity:

"Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result."

Trying to use tips and tricks as the solution to a deeply rooted problem is like trying to drive down a treacherous mountain and using only the guardrail to steer your car.

Sure, the guardrail keeps you on the road, but constantly crashing into it is no way to drive. It keeps you on the road, but destroys your car in the process. And as soon as there is a hole in the railing, your car goes off the cliff.

The goal is not just to stay on the road. It is to learn to use the brakes, and the accelerator, and the steering wheel. The guardrail is useful for moments when the car goes out of control or loses its traction. It can prevent a tragedy. But to really experience driving, you must learn to use all of the available tools in the car. Only then can the journey be enjoyed.

Recently I received the gut wrenching phone call from one of my best friends that he was getting a divorce. I still remember where I was standing when he called. I couldn’t eat for a few hours. I couldn’t believe what he had told me.

He learned that his wife had been having an affair.

How could this happen?

As it unraveled, what came out was a story I have been hearing over and over. It started with a pornography habit that got out of control.

I knew the other person involved. This person had been struggling with this habit for 20 years and had never told anyone. He was the last person I would have suspected to have a problem with this. He looked so composed. Like he really had it together. He actively participated in his church. He was excellent at what he did at work. He had a gorgeous wife and family.

I began to ask myself questions.

Why hadn’t he reached out for help?

Now that it’s all out in the open, he has commented that he didn’t know where to reach out for help. It was too embarrassing to tell anyone he had a problem.

Oh, he had tried to quit for years. He had done everything he knew how to do. He felt really bad. He promised himself he wouldn’t do it again. And he would get cravings and go back. Each time it took a little more to give him the emotion he was looking for. He crossed boundaries that he told himself he would never cross. He read scripture to distract himself. He asked God to take away the feelings. He even did several fasts, where he went without food and water for a day or two to learn to control his body. And he would go back.

Why couldn’t he stop?

Eventually he acted out on his feelings. Each time going a little farther. Each time crossing boundaries he told himself he would never cross. And then he had gone too far. He was in too deep. There was no turning back.

No one could believe it when everything was made public. His friends shook their head in disbelief. They said: "Of anyone, I never thought he would have a problem with it".

As a trained coach and counselor, I wondered - aren’t there resources available to help people with this?

I started to do some research and I was shocked at what I found ... or more accurately, DIDN’T find. I didn’t find ANYBODY with a permanent solution... REAL change within.

That was the moment that changed my life. Because that was when I decided that I had stumbled onto a VOID in addictions counseling and life coaching. It is why I’m offering you and your husband help, and the reason you’re here right now, reading this letter.

Your husband has probably tried to stop wanting porn.

If he’s like most men who can’t control their compulsion, he’s probably done one or a combination of these:

1. Trying harder or feeling extremely ashamed and guilty and promising himself he won’t do it again.
2. Distracting himself through scripture. While reading scripture is a great thing to do, it doesn’t work as a very good distraction. It should be a tool to draw closer to God and seek spiritual insights, not as the guardrail to keep the car from falling off the cliff. Using it as a distraction takes away the benefit of studying holy writings. And it does nothing to keep the “bad” thoughts at bay.
3. Monitoring him. It only increases his addiction. That’s because now he’s introduced another person into his secret world, and if he fails, he’s even MORE ashamed than ever. So he tries harder to hide it, but he still craves it.
4. Eliminating the internet. While sometimes necessary at the beginning, this is not the solution. The internet is not the problem. Deep unmet emotional needs and patterned behaviors of escape using the internet are the problem. If you want to fix the problem, eliminate the root. The branches and leaves take care of themselves.
5. Mind tricks. An example of a mind trick might be him telling himself he needs to put on a suit if he’s going to masturbate. I know this may sound completely crazy to you, but if he’s feeling bad enough’ he’ll try anything to stop his addiction. It’s like not keeping ice cream in the freezer, but instead making yourself go out for a cone whenever you get a craving - and hoping that the idea of having to get into the car and drive will make it less enticing. This is kind of the same thing. The reason behind his trick is that if he has to take the time to put on a suit he will reason himself out of the behavior by the time he gets to it. Mind tricks like these rarely work long term - kind of like using the guardrail to steer your car down a mountain road. Pretty soon you’re out of control and destroying your car in the process.
6. Feeling really bad. This only works until it feels worse for him to resist the cravings.
7. Getting an internet filter for the computer. When the craving comes back, he’ll just find other ways around it or start to use another computer. While I recommend getting a filter, this does nothing to stop the cravings.
8. Moving the computer to a public space in the home - not in a den or bedroom. This just means he’ll look at porn in the middle of the night, or when you’re not home.
9. Putting up inspirational pictures or quotes near the computer. He’ll just ignore or "block out" the quote or photo when the craving gets bad enough.
10. And finally, (THINK about this), on-line video series to help break porn addiction. Seriously? Do Alcoholics Anonymous have meeting in hotels? Do Narcotics Anonymous have meetings in dark, dingy, drug dives? Do Over-eaters Anonymous hold it’s meeting at an all-you-can-eat restaurant? Do Sexaholics Anonymous have it’s meeting on Bikini Beach? Clearly then, on-line courses could be the absolute MOST CHALLENGING possible media to help those addicted to e-porn.

Think about it- in order to find healing, we need to create an emotionally stable place from which to begin. During temptation, the limbic system of the brain actually sends chemicals to cloud out the frontal cortex of the brain (that’s that part where we think rationally). If someone is being tempted, its almost impossible to learn at the same time.

Some people have gotten great results from online video courses, and everyone should celebrate that. But so many have commented to me that it was just too much temptation to sit online that long.

I decided if I can be part of the solution, I would share what I have learned.

My name is Tony Litster.

I’m a life coach and a speaker. For the last several years I have been teaching people how to create what they wanted in their lives. People from all over the world have hired me to help them design their lives. I have worked with pro athletes, musicians’ authors, business owners, stay at home moms. I’ve worked with and helped everyone from multi millionaires to recovering drug addicts.

I have spent thousands of hours one on one with people in the most private and vulnerable aspects of their lives, helping them to experience what they wanted in life. And I only got paid if I got results for the clients. SCARY STUFF! Therefore I had to figure out what worked, and what didn’t - And quickly!

I noticed an interesting trend as I took people through the process you are going to experience. Habits that had plagued them for years started to change. When they worked with me, even though they didn’t initially hire me to help them with compulsive behaviors, they would begin to get better control of those behaviors

One client had struggled with compulsive feelings around pornography since he was twelve. This went on for almost 20 years. It was something that he was ashamed o, but he kept going back. He hired me to take his business to the next level, not to work on his bad habits. But something interesting happened. He went through the process you are going to experience, and he started to be more balanced in his life. People would see him, and ask him what had changed in his life because he looked different. He knew the answer. He was living in harmony with his inner voice and his life had clarity and purpose. After he went through this process, he told me about the habit from the past, and that he hadn’t viewed pornography for more than a year. Even though he had earned over twenty thousand dollars that month, his freedom from porn addiction was worth more to him than any amount of money. A few years later, I saw him at his wedding, and he had created a healthy, loving relationship and was moving forward with the life he really wanted to live.

Another client told me:

"There came a point in my life where I realized that I was not facing reality and trying to find ways to escape. My life continued to spiral downward as my craving for 'whatever' was becoming unhealthy. What I didn’t realize was that there were so many other people in the world that have had similar experiences… food, alcohol, sex, ‘the internet’... the cravings seem to get worse as the years passed. Then I found out about ‘Cure The Craving’, a program that really talked about the exact challenges that I was experiencing in my life. Tony seemed to so clearly understand what steps needed to be taken to stop the vicious cycle of avoiding reality. Through seemingly simple exercises my life has been completely transformed. I am truly grateful for this program and the difference it has made in my life. Thank you Tony, from the bottom of my heart." ( T.R. – February 2009)

I could go on and on with similar stories. What did they all have in common?

These clients all took the car and steered it and used the gas and the brake pedal to ease it down the hill. They didn’t use the “quick fix” of the guardrail. They made changes from WITHIN...

And that’s when I knew I was onto something.

These clients took the steps to clear out the emotional junk from the past, and took action in the process you are going to experience. When they did this, the old patterns shifted and they began to experience what they really wanted in life.

So if change is this easy, why haven’t more people moved past their old habits and into the life they dream is possible?

The answer is between the ears. The brain.

See, your brain’s job is to keep you alive. Not to keep you successful, or happy, or even healthy. It is designed to keep you alive.

Part of the way it does this is by constantly creating equilibrium or balance in our environments. An example of this is when someone smokes. Initially, the body resists the chemicals that come with tobacco. But because most people don’t listen to their bodies when they smoke, the brain eventually says: " allright, it looks like we are going to have to deal with all of these chemicals, so let’s create equilibrium with them". The brain deals with it, and learns to survive.

Then when the person realizes one day that smoking doesn’t serve them anymore, and they decide to quit, the brain says: “ Whoa! - wait a minute, we want our old chemicals..."

The body and brain will then do everything in their power to restore that equilibrium. They will create all kinds of emotions to get things back to normal. Anxiety, craving, depression, fear, you name it, the body and brain will throw it out there.

And if the person resists the emotions long enough to get through what I call “the gap”, the brain will eventually create equilibrium again with the new environment.

It’s this gap that keeps most people from changing. They attempt to change, and their brain resists it. As soon as they run into the emotions of resistance, they go back to the old behavior, even though it ’doesn’t serve them.

Further down, you’ll find out HOW I deal with "The gap" in a way that is EFFECTIVE; a way no-one else does.

The brain studies have shown that the brain releases all kinds of chemicals while someone is viewing pornography. Several endorphins are released, including adrenaline, serotonin, and dopamine. This is similar to what happens when someone uses cocaine. Did you hear that? Chemically, itEFFECTIVEs very similar to using cocaine!

And many recovering drug addicts say it was easier to quit cocaine than to stop pornography addiction.

Along with the endorphins, there are some chemicals released with the shame that accompanies the behavior. These have a tranquilizing and numbing effect. It’s a combination of adrenaline, feel good endorphins, like dopamine, and finished with a tranquilizing effect.

You think self control is going to overcome chemicals like that?

See, change is dangerous to the brain. The brain fears the unknown. It would rather keep things the same than have to figure out how to survive in a new environment. The feelings of fear when we try to change a behavior are very real. It is the same chemical experience of being chased by a lion.

The only way people usually make it through the gap of change, is if there is something very painful pushing them forward. The brain is wired to avoid pain and seek pleasure. That’s why if there is a strong enough reason to change, people will get through the gap. Sometimes it’s the pain of a life threatening illness, or a painful consequence that gets someone through the gap. A family member of mine quit smoking when she found out she was pregnant. She had a strong motivator to get through the gap.

Brain Studies show: If you introduce a new thought, with emotion every day for about 30 days, it creates a new neural pathway in the brain. If you continue to reinforce the new thought with emotion for about 90 days, it becomes the primary neural pathway. Or on a cellular level,

it becomes who you are.

The other way to get through the gap, and this is the process he will experience with my program, is to continue to reinforce the new belief system long enough for it to take hold in the brain.

This is what the brain studies have shown: Whenever you think a thought with emotion, it releases chemicals into the body. If you introduce a new thought, with emotion every day for about 30 days, it creates a new neural pathway in the brain.

Does that make sense? It becomes a new habitual thought pattern in the brain. This is how you get through the gap. You continue to reinforce the new emotions until they take hold.

And the studies also show that if you continue to reinforce the new thought with emotion for about 90 days, it becomes the primary neural pathway. Or on a cellular level, it becomes who you are.

Did you hear that!

He can create lasting change in his life and finally break his addiction, but he has to know how to work with the machine that he has. He needs to learn to understand how his brain works, and how to get what he wants from it.

It also means that if he views pornography, he releases powerful chemicals into his body. If he continues to do this over 30 days, it creates a new neural pathway for this habit and if he continues for 90 days, this habit becomes a primary neural pathway in his brain. He literally gets wired to keep repeating this habit.

I tell my clients this all the time: The machine is not broken. It just has been running on a bad program. It is running the bad program perfectly. We just need to put a good program in place.

So how do you do this?

How do you create lasting change?

I like to look at how we learned in the first place.

Consider this,

You were born in a body you didn’t create, to parents you didn’t choose. You showed up on a place on the planet, at a time in history, into a culture, and a religion, and a family that wasn’t your doing.

You had to figure out how to survive in an environment first physically, and later emotionally. People started telling you how to stand, and how to dress, and when and where to relieve yourself. They told you how to talk and how to think, and they said to you over and over:

You are...

You are...

You are....

Until you eventually said:

I am.

Before you had any say, the programs were put in place. And some of those programs don’t serve you.

You learned primarily in two ways:

First, through peak emotional experiences. When something happened that was dangerous, or exciting, or sad, or scary, the event was anchored in the neural pathways of your brain, and in your body. This was done to keep you alive. If something was dangerous, or painful, your brain would help you avoid this in the future. If something was pleasant, you would be drawn to repeat that activity.

And second, through repetition. Through repetitive training, mostly unintentional repetitive training, you were taught to act like your family. For good or for bad, you had to learn to survive in that environment. You adopted many of their belief systems.

You began to develop an emotional self image. This is how you emotionally view yourself.

The amazing part about this emotional self image is that you get in life what fits this self image. If something shows up that is bigger than this self image, you will get it out of your life. If something shows up smaller, you will declare that you are better than that, and seek out what fits this self image.

I know someone who won the lottery when she was young. It was more money than what fit her self image. She started giving it away and eventually got rid of it and got back to her self image of being just above broke.

Another friend had a self image that people took advantage of him. He was the nicest guy, and always gave people the benefit of the doubt, but over and over, people would cheat him. I heard one woman comment that when people got married they “just grew old and fat together", because that’s what her parents had done. Sure enough, she had a weight problem.

And the thing about this emotional self image is that we didn’t choose it. It chose us. It was just how we learned to cope and survive our environment. These are usually not conscious choices. Even when we become aware of it, they continue to run.

And they will continue to run, unless we actively reprogram them!!

So how do we reprogram the self image?

The same way we learned in the first place.

Peak emotional experiences- where we feel positive emotions around what we want to experience, and we continue to reinforce these feelings every day.

And through repetition of the beliefs we want to create.

Remember that people said to you over and over: you are, you are, you are… until you eventually said:
"I am!"

We take this same method and use it to incorporate new beliefs and emotions that serve your husband.

Many people are aware of using the process of affirmations to create new beliefs, but what happens when we start putting new beliefs in the brain it releases different chemicals than we are used to. After a few days, the brain and body go on strike. They want their old chemicals. Remember the gap that I talked about. The brain will create all kinds of emotions of resistance and depression, and craving, and doubt. Very strong emotions designed to get us back to the old place that was safe for our brain. Most people don’t feel like doing positive affirmations in this space, so they stop doing them and go back to the old belief system. This leaves them in a place of despair.

What I have found after working very closely with hundreds of people through this process is that he needs to have automatic systems in place to help him through the gap. Things he can do whether he feels like it or not, because there will be times when he doesn’t feel like it.

Music for His Brain

1) I have put together the technology where we record his voice speaking the new beliefs to himself, and then we mix his voice with Mozart music. Mozart music has been proven in studies to stimulate the left and right sides of the brain. Using special words and phrases that I’ve developed, he can literally reprogram his brain with new beliefs and emotions -thereby changing his behavior.

Audio Reprogramming

2) In addition I created an audio program that helps people implement these steps in their lives. It is a 21 day program to help him create lasting change. Thousands of people have had amazing results by using this program to help them get through the gap and reprogram their emotional self image.

But do you want to know the challenge?

3) He gets a weekly call. Most people can’t get themselves through the gap. That’s why people would hire me to personally coach them along the way. Each week we would talk, and it would keep them on track with their goals. It would remind them of the process. Each week they would learn how to fully incorporate it in their lives. And over about 90 days, they would start to experience miraculous results.

By having a weekly phone conversation, it would keep them on track. If they fell off track that week, it would get them back on track. The weekly call made all the difference to them. It was the support structure they needed to keep moving forward.

But I can only talk to a few people a week.

I contemplated this dilemma for a couple of years. I knew about tools and processes that really help people to change. But there is only one of me and I can only talk to one person at a time.

The other common concerns that came up were:

People wanted to remain anonymous.

Many of the other online programs were expensive.

Coaching with me one on one was very expensive.

Then it came to me. I discovered that I could set up conference lines and take several people at a time through this process. In a one to many format, I could give them a step by step system, one week at a time, and keep them in the game. Keep them moving towards the changes they wanted. Keep them on track. It gave them the support they needed. It gave them real tools for real change. I could teach them the new beliefs, one idea at a time, one week at a time. Brick by brick, they would build a new house and break porn addiction completely.

It was also a lot easier for people struggling with this challenge to get on the phone, instead of getting online. They could break the habit away from the place of challenge and then eventually get back to using the internet in healthy ways.

And using all of the tools of reprogramming available, they would begin the long journey of rewiring their brain. This time with a program that served them. With a program to have joy in their life.

The first groups of people paid almost $1,000 to be a part of this program. And they got remarkable results. Real change in their life. No quick fix, wishy washy testimonials. Real lifestyle changes.

I knew I had to get the price down to a range that everyone could afford.

I have named the new streamlined program

"Cure The Craving"

What’s in Every Call?

In one word - TRUCKLOADS!

Here’s just a small sample of what he’ll learn, an in the order he’ll learn it:

• 4 things he DOESN’T HAVE to do + 1 that he MUST do for the program to work.
• What are the 7 fears that can pop up PLUS an on-the-spot short simple exercise to get rid of them.
• The different motivations that draws a person to pornography
• The three chemicals that make pornography the drug of choice in the 21st century.
• How to create a new belief about who he is and what he can be.
• Why it’s completely possible for him to have a healthy fulfilling life – physically healthy, emotionally healthy, financially healthy, and spiritually healthy. Find out WHY for "sexual addiction recovery" to be PERMANENT, a program needs to address the WHOLE man, not just the sexual aspect.
• What to do when cravings show up, rather than him just sitting there and enduring it ...he can do this instead.
• A tool UNIQUE to Tony’s program so he can have his own affirmations, complete with background music that triggers both left and right hemispheres of the brain. NO OTHER PROGRAM OFFERS THIS INCREDIBLY POWERFUL LEVERAGE. Many programs give the IN-formation for the left brain but lack the TRANS-formation which also requires the right brain.
• Three activities that have helped hundreds in sexual bondage break free and why they work.
• How he can handle the withdrawal process that comes with masturbation.
• A powerful technique that stills the chatter of the mind.
• Equipment he can use so he can meditate like a Zen monk at the touch of a button - in a fraction of the time-easily and effortlessly. This tool takes you through this process of decompressing your emotional nervous system by taking your brain to this place of rejuvenation and it takes your body to this deep settled relaxing place. And all he does is sits back and listens.
• How particular healthy behaviors reprogram the brain for a new way of life and income.
• What are the various unmet emotional needs and triggers which cause destructive behavior? How to analyze triggers and deal with them.
• How he can reprogram himself when he has emotional wounds, trauma and abuse.
• Learn when and why sexual fantasies are harmful.
• How a certain scientific experiment done with dogs give us a clue what’s happening within his mind. Why he sets a powerful goal and then does everything in his power not to reach the goal so it creates a disconnect and there is cognitive dissonance between what he visualizes and what you get... and how to turn this around.
• How to break the shame cycle and so he can stop feeling bad about himself.
• A simple tool that works every time ... and people have paid me THOUSANDS for it!
• Uncovering fears, beliefs, self-image and life pattern issues ... and what to do to break them.
• WHO he should be transparent with and who NOT to be. This is CRITICAL for first recovery and then wholeness. I explain the details, ins and outs, advantages and disadvantages of who to choose.
• The difference between watching porn with a spouse vs viewing it in secret. The effects on marriage. WARNING: There may be shocks in store here.
• How to deal with withdrawal systems.
• How to make yearnings productive. How to fulfill the emptiness on an ongoing basis.
• Why those who get hooked on pornography are also those who can turn that very personal characteristic that hooked them ...into being some of the most successful people on earth. The answer will both surprise you and give you and your man incredible hope.
• The single greatest key to healing and restoration and how to get it and apply it.
• Incredible insights and advice from one of the leading experts in the country in men’s health & sexual dysfunctions. This expert uses scientific studies.
• Which internet filters are effective and why
• How diet effects his craving and the best things to eat to help him stabilize his emotions.
• How and when he can become more emotionally stable
• The tools that spell the difference between victory and defeat.
• The 6 things he really wants, but turns to porn instead. He’ll learn how to quench his cravings for these 6 things in a healthy way.
• How sleep affects porn cravings and the best kind and amount of sleep to get in order to speed healing.
• Insights from the foremost expert in neurolinguistic programming (NLP) in the country, so he can make changes with what he tells himself.
• The only permanent way he can fill the void

When you sign up for my "Cure the Craving" program, YOU will get access to a free blog AND free teleconference series specifically created for wives to help with their husband’s recovery.

Here’s what he’ll get:

1) 12 Conference Calls

Every week, he’ll get on a conference call with me. The calls last about an hour. In a one-to-many setting, I will take you through the steps of porn addiction recovery that have worked for others. Real long term change.

Each week, I will build on the ideas from the previous weeks. He will reinforce his new beliefs over and over. I will discuss belief systems. I will talk about how the brain works when creating life change. I will talk about emotions and compulsive behaviors.

In this no holds barred conversation; (and I even address the Big M that nobody likes to mention - MASTURBATION). He will take a good look inside and see what has been driving his behavior. He will implement simple tools that really work to rewire the belief systems. I will talk about dealing with breakdowns. How to handle emotions. What to do when in a challenging environment. How to handle cravings. What are the triggers.

I will discuss tools for creating healthy releases. He will create the vision of the life he wants to experience. He will put a plan in place that he can live with on a daily basis to make that vision a reality. He will get in touch with what has been going on inside him. He will face fears that have held him back in the past.

I found with the first groups that went through this process that sometimes people had questions come up along the way. They wanted a place where they could bring this up. Many of the questions were similar, and it helped to hear what others were experiencing. So to as an added benefit of the program, I decided that one week a month, I would dedicate the call to a question and answer session. I would open the lines, and he can bring any question he wants to the table. In an anonymous setting, people can ask questions and bring up sensitive subjects and get answers. Nothing is off limits on the Q&A calls.

In addition to the weekly call, I found that sometimes people need a little reminder. A little something to keep their head in the game.

2) The 10 Minute Call

I set up an additional call each week, that lasts only about 10 minutes, where he can have a quick check in to see how he’s been doing that week. It’s done in the same one to many format as the weekly call, so they can call in and keep their vision clear in between the weekly calls.

Remember what the studies said about change in the brain?

If you introduce a new thought, with emotion every day for about 30 days, it creates a new neural pathway in the brain.

Does that make sense? It becomes a new habitual thought pattern in the brain. This is how he gets through the gap. He continues to reinforce the new emotions until they take hold.

And the studies also show that if he continues to reinforce the new thought with emotion for about 90 days, it becomes the primary neural pathway. Or on a cellular level, it becomes who he is.

Over the 90 days, he will continually reinforce the emotions he wants to experience. He will continually reinforce the vision of the life he wants to live. He will reprogram himself the same way he learned as a child. And by sticking with it, he creates lasting change.

3) The Lifeline call

Many of the people that worked with me commented that there were times when the cravings were really strong. Times when they could just use some extra help to get through a tough situation. My personal clients would call me in these moments, and I would help them get back on track.

Through the technology we use, I have created a call that is available 24 hours a day 7 days a week. Its called the Lifeline Call. This is a short call that will talk him through tough moments of sexual addiction support and get him back on track. As a participant in the program, he can call the Lifeline Call as often as he wants. Whenever he needs a little help refocusing, this powerful tool is available.

Change is all about re-training the brain to react differently. These tools give him the support structure to do this training.

4) The 21 Day Audio Program

The people that used all of the tools, in addition to the weekly calls seemed to get the best result.

So as a bonus to the 90 Days to Create Lasting Change, I am including the 21 day program download and the customized affirmations. Just these two tools sell for $170.00 on my website.

So as a recap, Cure the Craving Program includes:

1. 1 Hour weekly call to put his plan together and execute it one week at a time
2. Monthly Question and Answer session with me
3. And as a bonus, a 10-Min weekly check in call to keep him on track
4. Lifeline Call
5. Water Weed Repeat, 21 Days to Reprogram Your Self Image and Create Lasting Change
6. Personal Customized Affirmations

I believe that this porn addiction support program works when he take the steps in his life. I am so confident that he will make great progress in this program that I will give him the first 30 days to experience it risk free. If for whatever reason he’s not benefiting from the program during the first 30 days, you may cancel and receive a 100% refund.

Not only will I refund your investment, but you can keep the 21 Day Audio Program download and the customized affirmations. That is a $170.00 value.

There is really nothing to lose.

I have seen powerful changes. Miracles. Not every single person experiences a miraculous turn-around, but most make excellent progress and that gives me hope.

Creating lasting change. That is what this is about. And it will take a long-term approach. No quick fix. Real change. Are you ready for that?

Now, I don’t want to throw every other program under the bus. Anyone who puts out a program is doing it to help people. They are well meaning and I applaud their efforts. I admire their courage to reach out and do something. We need much more of this in our world.

But I’m looking for real change. A new emotional world. A real, ongoing connection with God. Just him and God working out his junk.

So if you and your husband are ready to take this journey- welcome.

Welcome aboard.

Remember, you have nothing to lose...if you and your husband act now.

If you don’t, it will only be harder later...

I’m here to support you and help your husband heal.

Your friend,